Anyways, one thing that I've noticed is that I can easily get into a really deep relationship with girls, where I can talk about just about anything with them, and really have meaningful conversations. However with guys, I'm having a little more trouble making that happen.
I think this could be for a number of reasons, one of which could be that I'm not spending enough time around the guys who I want to be good friends with. The girls who I'm quite close with go to the same school as me, so we naturally spend a good amount of time around each other. The guys however, do not, so its only really when we end up hanging out outside of school that we see each other.
Another possibility is that these guys aren't ready for the level of maturity that I need in a relationship. I'm not trying to be cocky here, but I consider myself a little more mature than most guys my age, which could also be why I get along with girls so well. Now, perhaps there is a level to the relationship that I am seeking that they aren't even fully aware of yet, or aren't used to having in friendships. There is also the possibility that I am not mature enough to have a relationship that they are used to.
Building on that last point, its also worth considering that I'm just not fully aware of how to initiate that kind of a relationship - if you want to move further, you have to somewhat push the relationship to that level, which is sometimes hard to do.
Or perhaps I'm just too inexperienced with guys right now - maybe I just need to spend more time around them, and learn a little more about them before I try to move forward.
Either way, I'd like to be able to figure out where to go with this.
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